Person with Asperger's syndrome: fit in with other people and/or just live with it?

I think the focus is not so much on "being normal," but on being able to function normally in society. That doesn't mean the person can't be themselves. Addressing problems with difficulty in social situations is one thing, but "acting normal" is a different thing altogether. People with Asperger's can achieve success in social situations, while at the same time being themselves. That's one reason for mainstreaming children with this syndrome at an early age; they become comfortable being themselves in social situations.